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Author: Justin Mckibben
Probably one of the biggest misconceptions of recovery for people on the outside looking in, whether they are spectators or potential members, is that sobriety is boring. Many people believe that in recovery there is no room for excitement and adventure in the night life. Some people think it is hiding in meetings and holding onto a “Big Book” like a life preserver. So when we talk about the sober club life, people are frequently confused, sometimes even terrified for us.
But the truth is sobriety is about freedom. Some of us experience our recovery in different ways, and not everyone is the same. There is freedom in the fact you can practice your recovery in ways only you may have that intrinsic connection to. So the sober club life is not an theoretical concept, it is a gift some find in sobriety.
Now, as more young people are becoming active in the recovery community, the search for the night life in recovery is taking new form. New sober clubs are making waves and gaining fans all over the world. Now, one of the hottest Miami clubs is starting its own sober club life.
Sober Club Life: Daybreaker in Miami
In a city known for its nightlife, the sober club life finding such an exclusive spot something entirely new. Daybreaker, the early morning dance party, debuted at LIV nightclub this past Wednesday morning with a great deal of success. While it isn’t exactly a “nightlife” event, since it’s going down while the sun is coming up, it is a unique clubbing experience.
After over 4,000 people emailed Daybreaker about coming to Miami to bring its brand of sober club life to South Florida, co-founder Radha Agrawal told the Miami New Times,
“LIV then approached us to partner, and we are excited to help tell a different story and define a new way to connect and self-express.”
Instead of dark and brooding music, the soundtrack is fun and uplifting. Soul house, funk house, disco house. The goal is to start the day off right, with high energy and inspiration. The environment emphasizes joy, mindfulness, and intention. Last year Brimer went into detail about this, stating:
“We want to take out all the bad stuff associated with clubbing: the drinking and self-destructive behavior and mean bouncers, and just bring people together,”
The sober club life event begins at 6am. Tickets for the Daybreaker morning run around $20-$35. With growing popularity, some events have reached a crowd of around 400-500 attendees.
Sober Club Life: Daybreaker Lineup
The lineup for the Miami launch is currently a short list, but seems pretty legit. It’s not just for shaking respective groove things, but for a high energy start to the day. The big lineup included:
- 6am to 7am- Yoga with “rockstar yogi” Pablo Lucero
- 7am to 9am- Signature dance party with beats from DJ Alyx Ander
The idea is to wrap it all up in time for plenty of people to head to work. Since it is a morning affair, the menu makes sense.
- Instead of a liquor bar, there is coffee and fresh juice (of the orange or fruit variety)
- Instead of drugs, the club offers breakfast
The idea is to get the morning kicked off with dancing and movement, because these activities releases endorphins and other happy chemicals in the body. The Eventbrite for the Daybreaker states:
“Our goal is to bring Miami together with more mindfulness, wellness, mischief, self-expression and camaraderie.”
“With everything going on in the world these days, we need it more than ever.”
So, for those who want to start the day with sober clubbing, the Daybreaker give you yoga, dancing and good food for your good vibes.
Sober Club Life: My Experience
While I have not had the opportunity to check out the sober club life via Daybreakers, I was very fortunate to begin my journey in sobriety with a similar concept. A few years ago I was lucky enough to receive treatment at Palm Partners Recovery Center in Delray Beach, Florida. Every day starts off in pretty much the same way. After breakfast I was given a chance to dance with the community, with a colorful light show and live DJ. It was pretty counter-intuitive at first, but quickly became a highlight of the day. Over three years later, I am the DJ.
There is absolutely something to be said about getting up and active in the morning and what it does to set the tone for your day. I can only imagine Daybreakers is getting plenty of people looking for a sober club off to a great start.
Since my initial experience at Palm Partners, I can say I have continued the habit of being expressed, energetic and active in sobriety. I have been to raves with hundreds upon hundreds of people in Miami. I’ve had the chance to see a lot of awesome performers live in various venues across South Florida, and I have taken many opportunities to experience the fun that comes from the freedom of sobriety. All this makes me want to focus on one important concept.
Sober Club Life: The Freedom of Sobriety
There is a passage in the primary text of the 12 Step Fellowship that speaks on the freedom sobriety provides to those who seek it with honesty and thoroughness. It is possibly one of my favorite passages, and it states:
“He [the alcoholic] can go anywhere on this earth where other free men may go without disaster, provided he remains willing to maintain a certain simple attitude.”
There are those who would debate the interpretation of these words. In the context, the quote is referring to an individual who was once considered an utterly hopeless alcoholic by a great physician. This expert opinion tells him he will never regain his position in society. However, the paragraphs following the pages further express the incredible phenomena of “spiritual experiences” that create exceptions to the most hopeless cases.
Some may take this story as one of warning. I, however, have a different perspective. These few sentences give me great hope, because they assure me I am a free man in sobriety.
The important piece for me is the “simple attitude” I keep. I believe that for me to keep this amazing gift of freedom, I have to maintain my understanding of who I am, what my experience has taught me, and how I impact others. The design for living to me means being introspective in personal inventory, faithfully accountable to those I can help, and willing to seek more extraordinary experiences that will inspire a new perspective. That same 12 Step literature tells me:
“We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality – safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us.”
In this position of neutrality, I feel safe. The problems of the past, the obsession, have been removed. So I go where any other free man can go; clubs, concerts, anywhere that this new and amazing life has given me the opportunity to be, because I am a free man. A sober club life is nothing abstract at all; it is simply what some of us chose to do with the freedom recovery blesses us with.
Not drinking or using drugs is only the beginning. Life is so much more. I, as a man in recovery, must be willing to do more if I am to fulfill my life. That, in turn, has given me freedom. Taking the first steps can be the hardest part, but we want to help. You are not alone. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance use disorder or addiction, please call toll-free now.
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Author: Justin Mckibben
In this new world of constantly being connected and ‘followed’ through a deepening dependence on social media and smartphones, the kind of social anxiety that comes from a fear of missing out on something has become more and more prominent.
People everywhere are sharing and texting, ‘liking’ and tweeting instead of actually living. I know right, I’m even blogging! Weird, but I digress.
The fear of missing out, or #FOMO as defined in the urban dictionary, is a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, novel experience, profitable investment or other satisfying events. Here are 11 signs you struggle with FOMO.
1. You can’t put down your smartphone
One common indication of FOMO is the inability to set down your phone and enjoy the experience of just about anything for yourself.
2. Constantly checking all social media
Along with the constant texting and calling people despite your surroundings, the concept of continuously refreshing a page or checking apps on social media is a good clue you have fear of missing out. Facebook, Instagram and Twitter are all amazing, but jumping from one to the other, and then on to Tumblr and Snapchat and the other 10 is not always healthy, especially if by the time you check them all, you probably even start over again in a vicious cycle!
3. Taking pictures of everything you do
If you cannot do anything without taking a picture of it, and then having the craving to share it and prove to the world you were there (and that the new taco place has the BEST salsa) than you have definitely got to rethink why you do it. Being afraid to not be seen doing things online is a part of #FOMO.
4. Need to be caught up on all shows, music, gossip
Fear of missing out doesn’t just mean social events, it also means you feel urged to watch every episode of anything that’s apparently trending, or you might even listen to all the songs of a popular band you really don’t care about to make sure you aren’t missing out on their terrible music there either… next thing you know it’s your ringtone!
5. Collecting ‘Back Burner’ relationships
Having a ‘Back Burner’ relationship basically means you are always keeping someone waiting through leading them on, just in case! Because you don’t want to miss out on a relationship down the road if, you need it. It’s inconvenient now because, you know, you’re in love. But later, hmmmm not so much?
6. Having too much on your social schedule
When you have an appointment for some social activity every waking moment outside of the necessities like work and school, or even if you skip work or school, you might need to clear some time to realize you have a fear of missing out. Just take a rain-check on that thing, with the guy, at the place.
7. Feeling obligated to attend every social event… invited or not
When you almost believe it is your civic duty, or your personal mission to attend every party, every gathering, or every social event you are probably experiencing #FOMO, especially if you are not even invited.
8. Going out even when sick
Invited or not, when you are sick, or even if it’s just a healthier and safer choice for you to just avoid going out and you go anyway you are probably doing so instinctually despite what your friends or family may warn you against it, our of a fear of missing out. And an all-night party has a way of making sick people sicker.
9. Going to places or events you don’t like just to say you were there
A lot like the last one, if you are attending something you do not want to be attending, like a movie you don’t want to see or a disco even though you hate dancing, but you go just to say you were there then there is a chance that you have a real fear of missing out on something, even something you’re not too thrilled about in the first place.
10. Fear of not being around when the best things happen
It can be a serious bummer when you hear an awesome story of some activity your friends did that you missed, but to be overly anxious and afraid that every time people do things without you that you are missing the BEST of all experiences, it’s like a form of paranoia that’s common with FOMO. Yes, it was amazing. Yes, you could have been there. No, you will probably not die alone (maybe).
11. Not having plans on Friday is a fate worse than death
Once in a while it is not a crime to take a Friday night to yourself to relax at home, maybe read alone, or take it slow. But some people feel like every Friday night (or every night) should be like your birthday party, on New Year’s Eve… in Vegas! But seriously not doing anything on a Friday does not mean the end of the world, but struggling with #FOMO will make you feel like it is.
So at the end of the day, letting go of the fact that you cannot be present at every amazing thing, and you don’t have to be- or pretend to be through social media- in order to be happy can be a liberating thing. Our technology can be awesome because it expands our horizons, but when we become far too entranced in our public social status and less interested in actually living our lives, FOMO becomes an issue we cannot afford to acknowledge.
With social anxiety and the need to feel part of the in-crowd or the high life is something that draws us into some of our most self-destructive patterns, and #FOMO thrives off of compulsive and addictive behaviors, which often do far more damage than we see. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135. We want to help. You are not alone.
Alcoholism – and by extension, addiction – has been recognized as a chronic medical condition and a ‘brain disease’ for more than half a century and yet it remains a point of contention whether or not addiction is a disease or a choice.
Sure, you can argue that the decision to try a drink or a drug is a choice in the first place, and you would be right. But, what about all of those who started out ‘using’ for legitimate reasons, such as being prescribed a narcotic painkiller after major surgery or a bad car accident? What about all those kids who are diagnosed with ADHD/ADD and given powerful amphetamines as young as 5 years old, a substance that’s only a molecule away from being crystal meth?
There’s something to be said for why some people can be prescribed medications – with a known potential for abuse – and not abuse them, and why others become full-blown addicts. The same thing goes for people who spent their teen and college years “partying” – using weed, alcohol, cocaine, and club drugs – but then who seemingly are able to “just grow out of it.”
I am convinced that the brains of addicts are somehow different than the brains of non-addicts. Maybe we’re born with; maybe it’s Maybelline – or some other substance we were exposed to early on. Maybe it has to do with emotional trauma that actually altered our brain pathways when we were learning to cope in some way. Maybe we come from a long line of alcoholics and junkies; in fact, there is actual compelling evidence, as found with studies of identical twins, which points to a possible genetic predisposition to the development of addiction.
Now, perhaps the term disease isn’t quite the perfect term to describe addiction. Maybe ‘disorder’ or ‘medical condition’ is more fitting. I can see that. I personally don’t like using the word disease as it evokes the idea of illness. The other problem with calling addiction a “disease” is that by labelling it as such, we might be hindering the exploration of new theories or accepting new understandings of the nature of addiction.
For those of us in recovery, continuing to say that we have a disease sounds like we’re some sort of lepers to be kept away from society. And it sounds like there’s no hope for us when we say we’re sick with this ‘brain disease.’
Those who oppose the idea that addiction is a disease point out that it actuallyhas very little in common with so-called real diseases. It is not an illness in and of itself; rather, addiction is a group of behaviors. That is, addiction cannot be explained by any disease process.
This argument gains some weight when you compare addiction to other known diseases. So, for example, with addiction there is no infectious agent, such as with tuberculosis, nor is there a pathological biological process, such as with diabetes; furthermore, there is no biologically degenerative condition as there is with, say Alzheimer’s disease. Many in opposition to the brain disease model say that the only disease-like characteristic of addiction is this: if people do not deal with it, their lives tend to get worse. And that sort of description can be applied to many other things that aren’t diseases. Therefore, it doesn’t tell us anything about the nature of addiction.
Whether you believe that addiction in a disease or a choice, there is specialized treatment available to those who struggle with alcohol and other drugs.
It can be tricky figuring out if you just have a problem with drinking and using drugs or if you indeed struggle with the disease of addiction. Sometimes, people who abuse substances might incur negative consequences, such as loss of a job or jail time related to their substance abuse. The main difference, though, is that someone with drug or alcohol addiction simply cannot stop, even if they want to. The hard drinker or user might eventually stop because they don’t want to suffer any more consequences. If you or someone you love is struggling with substances, please call us toll-free at 1-800-951-6135 where there are Addiction Specialists available around the clock to answer your questions.
Sources close to TMZ report Avicii was released from a Miami hospital around 9pm EST on Thursday for unidentified reasons. He was staying at the SLS hotel and was anticipated to play a show at the well-known setting tonight, but, within the last few hours the show was annulled and viewers were left speculating what happened. Sources of TMZ also report he is no longer staying at the hotel.SLS was so thrilled for the concert by the world renowned DJ, they even retitled the Miami landmark “Avicii Hotel” for the week. Appreciatively, Avicii’s good friend Alesso stepped in to help out a pal so the show could go on. “At the hospital. Extremely bummed about missing my show at the Avicii Hotel. My brother @Alesso is stepping up and covering for me. <3 — Tim Bergling (@Avicii)”
This isn’t the first time Avicii’s well-being has held him back and resulted in cancelled shows. The producer/DJ knows he has the tendency to burn the candle at both ends and it ultimately all catches up with him: “I was drinking a whole lot more and I was going to after-parties and just generally not being very professional… but my body just couldn’t take it and I ended up in the hospital at the beginning of last year, like a year ago, really because of drinking.”
In a party setting where everyone wants more, more, more and they want it now, now, now–are we forcing these entertainers to drink and party and push their bodies past their perimeters on an almost nightly basis? Being a poster child for partying has severe costs, could Avicii be feeling them even at his young age? In all honesty, we don’t know precisely why his night started with a trip to the hospital, but what we do know is that Avicii would never take disappointing his fans by calling off a show carelessly. Until we know more, let’s keep him in our thoughts and send encouraging vibes of speedy recovery his way. I’m sure even if the show that Alesso put on was good, it still isn’t Avicii.
In “Hollywood”, the party scene is pretty much unavoidable; especially in the entertainment industry. It seems as though the partying is becoming too much for Avicii. Apparently, this isn’t the first time he’s had to cancel a show due to health reasons and some might say that’s a problem. I don’t know if he is an addict or not and that’s not for me to say but if he keeps having health issues due to partying, maybe he should reevaluate some of his decisions. Ending up in the hospital frequently isn’t something anyone wants. It would be nice if the stars starting publicizing more of a sober environment to party in as opposed to being under the influence at parties. Hopefully, Avicii can get back on his feet and back to doing shows or his fans will be very disappointed. If you or a loved one are struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-800-951-6135.
When partying has become routine and you can no longer go a day without drinking or drugging, it’s time to consider your options. Getting help from a drug detox in Sherborn, MA can help you stop the maddening cycle of drug use and abuse. Here are some things to consider when it comes to your drug use and how a detox program can help.
Drug Detox in Sherborn MA: Chemical Dependence
Chemical dependence, also called substance dependence, is the continued use of drugs or alcohol, even when significant problems related to their use have developed. Signs include an increased tolerance or need for increased amounts of substance to attain the desired effect, withdrawal symptoms with decreased use, unsuccessful efforts to decrease use, increased time spent in activities to obtain substances, withdrawal from social and recreational activities, and continued use of substance even with awareness of physical or psychological problems encountered by the extent of substance use.
Drug Detox in Sherborn MA: Withdrawal Syndrome
The withdrawal from certain drugs is potentially fatal. If you are dependent on alcohol, benzos (i.e. Xanax), or barbiturates, then you will need medical detox. If you are an opiate user, you will find that going to drug detox in Sherborn is a much better solution to kicking cold turkey. You will be given other opiate-containing medications and then tapered down so as to alleviate the withdrawal symptoms. Cocaine and Crack users will also benefit from detox centers in Sherborn because the withdrawal can be quite unpleasant. Often times, these addicts will experience psychological symptoms such as hallucinations. The medical staff at a drug detox in Sherborn will be able to administer medications to alleviate these withdrawal symptoms.
A Typical Day in a Drug Detox in Sherborn
Typically, your drug detox in Sherborn program will last anywhere from 4 to 10 days, depending on your specific situation. You will be put on a schedule of medication to treat your withdrawal symptoms and the medical staff will gradually taper you off over your stay. In the mornings, you will wake up, have your vitals checked, and be given your medication before breakfast. Usually your days will consist of groups or meetings and ample downtime so that you may rest and your body can recover. Medication is given out according to your schedule and the medical personnel at detox centers in Sherborn will routinely check your vital signs and overall health to make sure you are comfortable and the detox is proceeding safely.
The Benefits of Going to Drug Detox in Sherborn
By being able to get off the drugs and alcohol in a safe manner while being kept as comfortable as possible, you will be on the road to recovery. This is the first step in the right direction. Many people are afraid of the thought of quitting cold turkey and, indeed, this can be dangerous. Drug detox in Sherborn is specifically designed to treat people like you, who are experiencing a very real medical condition known as chemical dependence and addiction. If you or a loved one is struggling with substance abuse or addiction and is seeking help from a drug detox in Sherborn, MA please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135.