No one loves harder than a mother, and the pain a mother feels when a child suffers one cannot even imagine. So when a mother loses a child, the hurt can do a lot of things. For some mothers, it pushes them to action, and that is exactly what happens to a grieving mom in Ohio who recently launched a battle against drug overdoses with a roadside billboard after the loss of her son.
Following the overdose death of her son, Lenora Lada paid to put up a billboard in the Marietta, Ohio to raise awareness about the Good Samaritan laws. She takes this action in hopes that other mothers may not have to grieve as she does.
Trey’s Life Mattered
The sign Lada bought shows a picture of her son, Trey Moats, and reads,
“His Life Mattered: No Excuse For Not Calling 911 or taking someone to a hospital,”
Trey’s mother had known about his struggles with addiction but had felt helpless as her 26-year-old child was unwilling to get the help he needed.
Then one day at 3:26 in the morning, she got a call from her son’s friends. Trey had been in a car with these friends when his lips turned blue as he overdosed, so they had driven him to another friend’s house to ask a mother there to perform CPR. But because they were too afraid to call 911, they called Trey’s mother instead and told her to come and get him. Lenora Lada states that by the time she arrived, her son was on the ground already gurgling.
By the time Lada arrived at her son’s side, it had already been 20-25 minutes. When she asked if someone had called 911, she was told by the other mother,
“No, I don’t want the squad and the sheriffs coming to my house again.”
Lada demanded that the daughter call 911, but Moats ultimately died at the hospital of multiple organ failures due to cardiac arrest and polysubstance abuse. Ever since that tragic and heartbreaking moment, Lenora Lada is determined to make sure people know that her son’s life mattered, as do the lives of other victims of overdose. The billboard also states:
“3/10 Mile could have saved Trey’s life.”
Lada believes a call to emergency responders could have saved her son. The sheriff’s report, however, states it is unclear if her son would have survived even if he was taken to the hospital. Local news reports that one coroner said Trey would have been brain dead, but another coroner did not seem so sure.
One thing is for sure though, Trey’s life did matter. And whether or not it was certain to make a difference, something more should have been done to try and save this young man’s life. That is why now Lada is also focused on raising awareness for Good Samaritan laws in Ohio.
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Good Samaritan Awareness
According to the Good Samaritan law:
- Authorities cannot prosecute anyone who calls 911 to report an overdose
- Protects the person overdosing from prosecution
- Immunity is only good two times
- The law is not applicable to people on parole
Ohio’s Good Samaritan laws also require a survivor of an overdose to obtain a drug treatment referral within 30 days in order to avoid charges. This measure is in place with hopes to show more people who do suffer from addiction there are opportunities to seek help.
The intention of Good Samaritan laws is to reduce the hesitation to get help from bystanders who witness an overdose. These laws vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, with different interactions with other legal principals. But in essence, they are meant to prevent unnecessary overdose deaths by trying to take the fear of punishment out of the situation.
Lada also believes she would like part of the law to be changed, stating,
“I am asking for people to be accountable for not getting them help,”
What exactly that would look like is unclear, but for a mom who lost her son, it is an understandable sentiment. In many cases, there have been voices of support for charging drug dealers who sell to overdose victims with murder. So if this were to happen, what kind of punishment should someone face for not reporting an overdose?
Good Samaritan laws exist to help prevent deaths due to drug use, and there should be more of an effort to encourage people to report overdoses. Far too many sons and daughters are lost every day to drug overdoses. We should be taking every action we can to avoid more of the same. To defeat drug-related death requires prevention, education, and effective addiction treatment. If you or someone you love is struggling, do not hesitate. Please call toll-free now. We want to help.
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By Cheryl Steinberg
Alcoholism and drug addiction aren’t new themes when it comes to serious television dramas, however, sitcoms (situational comedies) generally don’t treat these very serious situations in their themes. Until now.
A relatively new show that’s now in its second season, Mom is a prime-time show, starring Anna Faris (think Scary Movie franchise) is Christy, a recovering drug addict and single mother raising a pregnant teenager. Christy’s long-estranged, recovering alcoholic mother, Bonnie (Allison Janney), decides to move in.
With two main characters that have a history of drug addiction, this show is breaking the mold. There’s an audience and laugh-track which might seem out of the ordinary for a show about two drug addicts. That’s because the show is really about life in recovery.
Co-creator and executive producer, Chuck Lorre insists: “It’s about recovery.”
“Recovery is actually dealing with the issues that are below addiction,” says Lorre of the Emmy-minted CBS sitcom (thanks to Allison Janney’s plucky, spot-on performance), which returns tonight for its second season. “The drugs and alcohol treat those conditions, but treat them very poorly, and it creates another layer of problems. Treating the underlying conditions of addiction is the show, not the addiction itself.”
“It’s a heroic story to tell about a woman raising a child in this world by herself, or raising children,” says Lorre. “Adding on the difficulties of having had a troubled past, recovering from alcoholism—that’s a day-to-day situation.”
“Christy desperately wants to be a better mother, daughter, and person, but whenever she gets the opportunity, she says or does the wrong thing, at least at first,” says co-creator Gemma Baker. “I think that’s really human. And the great thing about having a lead actress, like Anna Faris, is that she is so charming—you can’t help but love and root for Christy. The thing I love most about Bonnie is that she always says exactly what’s on her mind and Allison Janney delivers those moments perfectly.”
“I think our show does a good job of finding humor in addiction and recovery because we don’t shy away from the seriousness of the issue. Chuck really encourages us to lean into the emotional moments, which means we don’t have to end every scene, or every episode for that matter, on a joke. If we just went for the funny in every single moment of this show, and completely ignored how serious addiction is, I don’t think the audience would be able to laugh as easily. Those heavy moments really help us earn the light ones.”
When it comes to mainstream TV Land, humor and drugs usually don’t mix. But this couldn’t be any further from the truth about addiction, which is this: many people who struggle with substance abuse and addiction have a great sense of humor.
From my own experience, I have always relied on my humor as well as my knack for adding levity to heavy situations, like addiction, in order to keep my sanity. Without it, most recovering addicts would be dead – in one way or another. Recovery isn’t simply about not drinking and not using drugs. It’s about creating a life worth living. If it wasn’t, I don’t think you’d be able to convince me that sobriety was worthwhile.
In fact, you could probably make a case that nobody laughs at their imperfections and character defects like an addict. The idea that recovery and darkness must go hand in hand just isn’t true, which is why CBS’s sitcom, Mom, is such a refreshing departure from the usual fodder of TV sitcoms.
A sense of humor is definitely a great coping mechanism to deal with life’s heavy situations, such as being in recovery from drug addiction. But, don’t get it twisted; active addiction is a very serious, life-threatening condition that isn’t to be taken lightly. If you are struggling with substance abuse or addiction, help is available and recovery is possible. Call toll-free 1-800-951-6135 to speak directly with an Addiction Specialist who can understand what you’re going through and answer your questions. We are available 24/7.
Author: Justin Mckibben
This week’s Crazy News Stories have a lot to do with political puppies, futuristic furniture, and ISIS. I know this all sounds like some kind of sick sci-fi novel, but I promise you president Spot isn’t using a robot recliner to fight the war on terror… that would just be ridiculous. Or would it? Anyway, this week we bring you a few stories that are just weird in all kinds of ways, or at least a little fun to brighten up the end of the week.
Mom Infiltrates Cars to Defend Against ISIS
Experts never would have expected that terrorists will start by hiding in cars on Mississippi school property, but then again they always strike when you least expect them. Despite fears that the Islamist State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) could attack the United States on our own turf, maybe this mother should have not blown her cover.
Lisa Carol Roche, age 41, was allegedly caught stealing sunglasses and other items from cars at East Central High School when she decided to explain her counter-terror expertise and used ISIS as an alibi. After being accused of burglarizing cars in the parking lot of her children’s school Roche told the officers that she was “looking for ISIS terrorists.”
She remained in Jackson County Adult Detention Center Friday. She’s been charged previously with careless driving, felony fraud and felony embezzlement, but as far as we know that could have been money being used to combat ISIS espionage. If convicted Roche could face up to five years in prison and a $10,000 fine.
Japanese Hugging Chair
(Not actual ‘Hugging Chair’… He just looks SUPER comfy)
The so-called “tranquility chair” that has been recently invented in Japan has an upper half with arms, specifically designed to wrap around who ever sits in the chair. Arms that are programmed to be snuggly, because they embrace humans affectionately when in use. UniCare, the company that created the chair, is selling it in Japan for around $419. A UniCare spokesperson tried to make a few clear selling points, as if we needed more reasons to buy this. I could use a chair to hug me now, this one just spins. Weeeeeeeeee!
“It makes you feel safe. Anyone can use it, but it is designed for older people. [The chairs] are comforting for people who live alone — they can talk to them and hug them. They also play old Japanese music, which is nostalgic for older people.”
No idea if these ‘hugging chairs’ will make it to the mainstream markets in America. Hey Japan, we get lonely too! Well not ME, but for all you other single folks out there, no need to waste money getting married. This chair will love you and snuggle you and whisper sweet nothings in your ear, and you can grow old and/or obsolete together.
Taking the Dog for a Run… For Mayor
(Not Actual Photo of Candidate)
In Oakland several activists from the Occupy Oakland movement are pushing for the candidacy of Einstein the dog to unseat incumbent Mayor Jean Quan!
“I like to run. A lot! I mean A LOT! So make no mistake, I can make it all the way to the finish line,” says Einstein’s website.
But will the Catahoula hound’s handlers keep him on a short leash on the campaign trail? Is his bark worse than his bite? The long walk in the park to victory isn’t just a tough one, but it’s legally impossible. Still, Einstein’s supporters ask voters to cast a ballot for the only canine candidate by ignoring county law requiring office seekers to be a citizen and registered voter. Not sure about his drug policy, but we’re sure he supports the canine units.
“There is a legitimate reason to wonder whether a dog can serve as mayor of Oakland, but he provides a great voice for low-income and otherwise marginalized people who live in Oakland,” said Einstein’s political advisor.
Einstein presented his radical platform on Thursday morning in front of City Hall, and this is one dog that has every intention of learning new tricks when it comes to politics. While his views of healthcare are strained due to previous vet visits, he supports low income families, and just about anyone with a chew toy.
Vanity (Cab) Fair
(This driver said shirtless was extra)
New York City is already known for its calendar featuring fire fighters from around the city, and these obviously catch a lot of attention, but now the heat is really on. The sexiest cab drivers of New York City are now being featured in the second-annual edition of the NYC Taxi Drivers Calendar, available for just $14.99! While many New Yorkers were not sure if they would be interested in one of their own, the cabbies themselves seemed pretty confident in their photos.
A portion of the proceeds goes to the University Settlement, a non-profit organization providing education, housing and literacy services to low-income immigrants in NYC. So ladies, when you want to take the express route to get your meter running, these gentlemen are happy to help.
Well given the fact that these are not the craziest stories we have ever seen, we will let it go without saying that it’s another week full of madness out there. Some of the madness, probably has a little or a lot to do with substances, but so far we are just here to report the stranger side of this weeks activities. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135
Mom can’t stop drinking, or Dad can’t stop using. With people who suffer from substance abuse or addiction one of the hardest parts is the pain caused to the family and friends of those they love most. Addiction is a disease that touches not just the addict, but their parents, siblings, friends, and especially their children. However as difficult as it may be, having the conversation with the child of an addict about the parent’s addiction, behavior, and if at all possible their absence for treatment is so important.
Even if the child of an addict has known that the problem existed for a long time, it is still never an easy conversation to have with a child. More than 28 million Americans are the children of alcoholics, but addiction is not being discussed at the home level. Most of the children of addicts grow up facing a lifetime of issues that other kids don’t have to face every day. They’re more prone to have emotional, behavioral and academic problems than other kids, and are four times more likely to develop an addiction themselves. They are also at greater risk of abuse and neglect, witnessing domestic violence, and marrying an addict later in life.
Be Honest about Problem
Depending on the age of the child you may have to use different terminology, you should always be honest about their parent’s problem. Explain to the child that addiction is a disease, and that their mother or father is sick and must get help in order to get better. Be sure to have some knowledge of the disease of addiction, and anything specific to this parent’s addiction that may be useful in case the child has any questions.
Keep It Age-Appropriate
Use language and describe the situation depending on the age and maturity of the child. Be honest and simplify as much as possible to try and help the child understand.
Ask about the Childs Feelings
Instead of trying to belittle the impact on the child, try and figure out how exactly they feel regarding the situation, and identify with them how legitimate their pain and worry is.
Get Rid of Guilt
One of the most important things for child of addict to understand is that their parents addiction is not their fault! Children have a tendency, especially at a young age, to consider themselves responsible for their parent’s problems. It is essential that you let them know that addiction effects the mind and body differently, so even if their parents have put blame on them while intoxicated, it is not at all their fault. Children may also feel alienated or idolize other families as ‘better families’. Make sure they know they are not alone, and there are millions of families with the same struggles.
The 7 C’s
The National Association for Children of Alcoholics has developed a list of the key factors of communication when discussing these problems with the child of an addict. These are referred to as “Seven Cs of Addiction”:
- I didn’t Cause it.
- I can’t Cure it.
- I can’t Control it.
- I can Care for myself
- By Communicating my feelings,
- Making healthy Choices, and
- By Celebrating myself.
These are some of the standard stepping stones for helping a child to not only see where they are not at fault for their parent’s addiction, but also to start working toward positive coping and further constructive communication. Kids are not always able to understand how these things can lead to emotional and behavioral issues in the future, so once the steps are being made to do something about the addiction in the house-hold make sure to keep honest and open support available to them. Not all children need to go down the same path, and they can be placed in a situation that will allow them to avoid that path and let them understand how loved they really are.
Many parents do not seek treatment because they worry for their children, unaware that the addiction harms the child more than any period of absence ever could, and the best thing they could do for that child is seek help. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135
A study was recently released that suggests that your addiction to your smartphone can affect your parenting abilities and stop you from emotionally connecting with the children. Examiners found that in the study when parents spent an extended period of time looking at their phones, their children saw and tried to seek out attention.
The researchers at Boston Medical Center visited fifteen local fast food restaurants and witnessed the interaction between family members, specifically noting the responses of the children when their mom or dad was pre-occupied with their smartphones. A fellow in developmental behavioural pediatrics at Boston Medical Center who is also the lead author of the study, Dr. Jenny S. Radesky, stated that the researchers took thorough notes about the observations.
According to the study, parents in forty of the fifty-five families were engaged in their mobile devices. They appeared more side-tracked when they were typing and making swiping gestures with the fingers than when making phone calls. And almost a third of the parents used their devices nonstop during their meal. ABC News reported that some children seemed unaffected and ate their meals in quiet. Other children were more challenging, with one set of siblings singing ‘Jingle bells, Batman smells’ to get a response from their father.
The study showed that the amount to which the device was used, on the other hand, did not essentially directly relate to the way in which the child responded. Radesky stated “The conclusion I wouldn’t draw from the study, is that we need to completely remove these devices when we are with our children. But it does raise the issue that we need to create boundaries for these devices when we are with our children.”
The learnings of this study will be printed in the journal Pediatrics. I think this study seems to be pretty accurate. When I think about how much I use my smartphone and how often I am not paying attention to many important things in my life, I can’t imagine how it could end up being if I have a child. I’d like to think that I’d put down the phone and pay complete attention to my kid but I know that isn’t completely true. This is an era of everyone being addicted to smartphones.
I just recently went to Disney World this past weekend and when walking around one of my friends noticed how many people were on their phones. It was insanity – almost every person walking by was on their smartphone. And that’s just in Disney World, one of the most magical and fun places on earth for a family vacation (in my eyes anyway)! If you can’t put your phone away in Disney to have a good time with your family, when are you going to put it away? Smartphones have been turned into devices you can do anything on and people use them for everything. Our generation can pretty much do everything from our cell phones.
I really hope that a lot of parents out there (and me included for the future) learn from this and take action to spend more quality time with their children and not on their smartphones. If you or a loved one are struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-800-951-6135.