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4 Signs to Evaluate Your Relationship


4 Signs to Re-evaluate Your Relationship

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Author: Shernide Delva

A toxic relationship can have a negative toll on your life, especially in recovery. Most of us want to find a partner we can share a connection with; however, settling for less is not the answer. While some relationship struggles are a common part of any relationship, there are some things that can hinder even the most promising connection from being able to grow. In these situations, it might be time to re-evaluate whether the relationship you have is worth holding on to.

A recent article explored signs that partners need to evaluate before they consider staying or letting go of a relationship. A summarized version of the article will help you understand the dynamics of your relationships worth working on and the areas that are a major red flag.

4 Signs to Evaluate Your Relationship

  1. One Person is Doing ALL the Work

    Relationships take compromise which means it takes two people to make it work. If you are putting more effort than your partner to the relationship, the relationship will falter. Your relationship will not work until both people are on board. Relationships are very difficult to keep going, and both partners must be fully invested to make it work. No matter how much effort you are putting in, your partnership will not last unless your significant other is working equally hard. You both need to be giving your all. The tremendous amount of compromise, forgiveness, and affection that a healthy partnership requires is too much for one person to bear alone. If you are in a one-sided relationship, it might be time to leave and find somebody who is willing to share the weight and treat you with fairness and respect.

  2. Your Life Plans Are Opposite

    You want to travel the world while your partner wants to settle down and have children. You want to roam the streets of the city while your partner wants to live on a farm. Partners not headed to the same destination eventually end up on rocky terms. One will have to compromise their dreams for the other person. The other partner will have the bear the guilt of being with someone who sacrificed everything for them. This deep resentment can interfere in the love that two partners have created together. Unfortunately, this is a very complicated problem to have and required deep evaluating. Remember, your health and recovery are a priority and ultimately, you must choose the lifestyle that sets you up for the most success. To find a relation that works, be true to your soul and seek out a partner whose life path matches your own.

  3. When Times Get Hard, You Separate

    Learning to lean on your partner during the challenging times of the relationship can be hard. However, if you only stay together during the good times, that is a huge red flag. There are more struggles waiting for you down the road, and these are major predictors of what is to come. If you find you or your partner distance during a challenge rather than come together, you may need help learning how to come together. Ultimately, pushing each other away will weaken your bond and breed insecurities.

  1. You Do Not Accept Each Other’s Authentic Self

    One of the best parts of a committed relationship is knowing your partner loves you despite your flaw. While you both should work on strengthening your flaws, you should feel safe around your partners. If you can not lean on your partner for support, or if your partner makes you feel self-conscious and guilty when it comes to your flaws, that can damage the trust in a relationship. When it comes to recovery, there are areas you are going to continue to be working on, a partner who chips away at your flaws will lower your self-esteem. If you feel you are constantly trying to appear perfect to your partner, it could be time to evaluate the relationship. A relationship that does not allow you to be your true authentic self is a relationship not worth having.

Letting go of a relationship is a difficult and personal decision. However, breaking free of a destructive relationship can open you up to the possibility of a stronger one. Do not settle for less than you deserve. Recovery is about finding the tools to optimize your chance of success. A bad relationship will only hinder you in your journey. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135.

10 Ways to Attract Positive Vibes into Your Life Right Now

10 Ways to Attract Positive Vibes into Your Life Right Now

By Cheryl Steinberg

Struggling with your spiritual program? Not sure how to maintain being spiritually fit? Well, here are 10 ways to attract positive vibes into your life right now that can bolster your program.

#1. Love yourself and accept you for you

List all the things you love about yourself and practice daily affirmations – whatever it takes to remind yourself of all the things you like and love about yourself.

#2. Give up past resentments and disappointments about yourself

Look at it this way: challenge yourself every day to be a better person than you were yesterday. Remember, it’s progress not perfection. Find a way to forgive yourself about the past and stop with the self-blame and guilt already!

#3. Let go resentments towards other people and events

Stop criticizing and blaming others. Don’t take things personally and remind yourself that what others do is a reflection on them, not you. And as far as things that happen, accept it as life on life’s terms and look to these events and circumstances as chances to grow.

#4. Stop giving your power away

Use your time and energy wisely.  Every time you choose to focus on a negative, you are wasting your energy and only attracting more negative energy. Remember, this is about how to attract positive vibes into your life, right now!

#5. Visualize what you want

Try using a vision board. Instead of picturing the worst case scenario, try seeing things as you want them to be.  Visualize yourself doing things in a state of perfect health and happiness.

#6. Do not identify any illness or dis-ease as being part of your self or being

When you say things like, “I am sick” or “I am depressed,” you are putting that out into the Universe and also convincing yourself of those things. It then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, try putting it like this: “I am experiencing depression,” or “I am someone who experiences the disease of addiction.” Better yet, try saying, “I am a person in recovery from addiction.”

#7. Come from love; not fear

Get into the habit of expressing gratitude for anything and everything. One great way to do this is to make a daily gratitude list. You will immediately sense a shift in energy from blasé to bliss.

#8. Recognize that you have the power to heal yourself

Healing power flows from the thoughts you think. Allow positive thoughts to replace the negative ones in order to eliminate stress as well as boost your immune system. You can still believe in a Higher Power; just know that you, too, possess power – the power to take action in order to be better, recover, and heal.

#9. Be happy

Practice being present, in the moment. Choose to be happy. No one and no thing has the power to make you happy or unhappy. When we exist in a state of happiness, we attract positive energy, which, in turn, boosts our immune systems and enables our ability to heal.

#10. Laugh. A lot.

It’s true when they say that laughter is the best medicine. Do what you have to in order to get yourself to laugh: watch funny movies, think about things that have happened or that have been said that make you laugh, or even practice laughing meditation (it’s a real thing and it works!).

These are all great ways to attract positive vibes into your life right now but, you must remember practice these things daily. Think of them as part of your spiritual maintenance.

If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135. Addiction Specialists are at the ready to take your calls and answer your questions – day or night. It’s never too late. Help is available and you are not alone.

10 Most Common Resentments in Early Recovery

10 Most Common Resentments in Early Recovery

By Cheryl Steinberg

You’ve probably heard this a bunch already but, resentments will take you back out. When you take a look at what the word, itself, means, it might give you some insight into why holding resentments can be so detrimental to your recovery. Resentment is close to “re-sentiment” where sentiment means ‘feeling’ and the prefix ‘re-’ means ‘again.’ So, resentment literally means “feeling again (and again).” Therefore, holding resentments is like recycling old, negative feelings, revisiting them over and over again. No wonder they can be such a problem!

Here are the 10 most common resentments in early recovery:

#1. At your sponsor

For telling you something you don’t want to hear.

#2. Having a curfew and other halfway house rules

Many of us in early recovery choose to live in a halfway house for added support, especially because it is suggested to do so. Well, ‘added support’ means having structure and therefore not too much freedom. Often times, it seems that we forget that we signed up for exactly that as soon as a rule is being enforced.

#3. Toward your halfway housemates

Whether it’s that they’re stealing your peanut butter or laundry detergent, or not pulling their own weight when it comes to house chores, it’s quite easy – and common – for people in in early recovery to cop a resentment towards their housemates.

#4. Because of OPP (Other People’s Programs)

People in recovery sometimes can’t avoid the pitfall of taking other people’s inventories and becoming resentful when they see others who talk a big game but aren’t actually living the principles.

#5. When someone’s family is helping them financially

Especially if you’re struggling with money, or a lack thereof.

#6. Because of something someone says in a meeting

Like when someone mentions drugs in an AA meeting or identifies as an ‘addict’ rather than an ‘alcoholic,’ for example.

#7. That someone gets to go home for the holidays

For those who went out of state for treatment and/or to live in a halfway house, that usually means that you don’t get to see your family back home for a while. But for some, whether they are locals to your area or who can afford it, they get to make the trip back home. This for sure leads to resentment on the part of those who stay behind, especially at holiday time.

#8. Because someone else has a car

Meanwhile, you have to take the bus…grrr.

#9. When someone uses

Unfortunately, when it come to the disease of addiction, relapse is quite common. And many of us, when we were in early recovery, would cop a resentment that someone “got to” use, rather than see it for what it is: an unfortunate relapse.

#10. At normies

People who can drink or use successfully – as it’s said – especially friends you used to drink and/or use drugs with. While you turned out to have a real addiction and therefore had to get sober, they could continue to party.

Resentment, envy, and jealousy are all part of the human condition, However, for people in recovery from alcohol and other drugs, copping resentments can be Enemy No. 1 when it comes to staying clean and sober. When you’re feeling resentful, talk to your sponsor and sober supports; and share about it in a meeting. If you are struggling with your sobriety and need help, call toll-free 1-800-951-6135. Addiction Specialists are available 24/7 to take your call.


6 Reasons Why Young People Don’t Like Religion

6 Reasons Why Young People Don’t Like Religion

By Cheryl Steinberg

Although I’m probably on the top (read: older) end of the so-called Millennial generation, I would say that I can identify with these 6 reasons why young people don’t like religion.

  1. Generation D

Millennials are also referred to as Generation D, or the Digital Generation, because of growing up with technology and not knowing what life was like before cell phones. In this digital age, it’s not just Millennials who are exposed to a variety of faith perspectives online but, they are the ones who spend the most time online.

With access to all these different perspectives, they can “tailor-make their own religion,” one expert notes. Case in point: “I go to the Internet and when I’m stuck and I’m not sure, the research is right there; the answers are right there,” one Millennial student explains.

With immediate access to alternate sources – by way of clicking hyperlinks, shuffling iPods and surfing TV channels – the mind is actually trained to see the world spatially rather than temporally. This introduces it to various perspectives and points of view. Theoretically, for many Millennials, it’s hard to believe one person possesses the ultimate Truth; because there are too many truths ‘out there.’

  1. The Millennial Way of Life

Other experts suggest that the “Millennial way of thinking” informs their belief system: “They are absolutely appalled at the conflict and war that competing exclusivist religions can engender. According to Millennial logic, they can’t all be right, so they must be all wrong. Political parties are viewed the same way.”

Other aspects of the Millennial way of life, such as tattoos, inclusiveness, hipsterism, and social networking, don’t really mesh well with most established religions, that are more ‘old school.’

  1. Semantics

The word ‘religion’ is a major part of why young people are indifferent or even against religion. One pastor says, “I think their generation is really turned off by the term religion. They see it as a set of rules or something that represents the past.”

In an Introductory to Religion class, a professor posed this question to his students: “What comes to mind when you hear the word religion?” Of the 22 out of 30 students who responded, all but one expressed a negative view of religion. And these are Millennial students at a small, church-affiliated school in rural North Carolina, not some “some secular bastion of higher education,” as the professor put it. For many Millennials, it seems, just the word religion evokes contempt.

  1. The Consumer Culture

The consumer culture in this country – along with the church’s attempts to embrace it via evangelical mega-churches – are other reasons that Millennials are feeling ‘turned off’ by religion. Today’s young people generally seek to distance themselves from large institutions. One Millennial cringes at “performance churches” saying, “Having been advertised to our whole lives, we Millennials have highly sensitive BS meters, and we’re not easily impressed with consumerism or performances.” In fact, she argues, the “church-as-performance is just one more thing driving us away.”

  1. The Merging of Church and Politics

Finally, Millennials, most of whom identify as independents and vote Democratic, are turned off by the increasingly intimate relationship between church and politics. They are “sick of the association we commonly make, in our culture, between ‘being religious’ and having a conservative political agenda,” a professor of theology explains.

  1. Evermore “P.C.”

Millennials tend to be firmly grounded in P.C. culture, and although that stands for ‘politically correct,’ that term doesn’t quite seem to embrace it all. Millennials are also very socially-minded and generally-speaking have a greater awareness and acceptance to all walks of life: gay people, transgendered people, people of color and other minorities (read: women).

That said, the Church and other institutions of dogmatic religion – although they preach brotherly love – have a tendency of being judgmental, misogynistic, homophobic, and racist. A maddening hypocrisy.

Are you seeking recovery but not “sold” on the idea of going to church or seeking religion as a solution? Do you have a resentment against God? Have no fear; there are many of us agnostics and atheists recovering from alcohol and other drugs. There are many paths to recovery and healing from substance abuse and addiction. Call an Addiction Specialist today at toll-free 1-800-951-6135.

Down with OPP (Other People’s Programs)

Down with OPP (Other People’s Programs)


By Cheryl Steinberg

Taking other people’s inventory, you know you do it. Or you have done it in the past. Probably early on in your recovery as well as on days that you were perhaps not feeling so spiritual. But, you’ve been warned against doing it; you know better. And you know that it doesn’t feel too good when someone butts into your program, either.

The problem with concerning yourself with other people’s programs is that it allows you to take the focus off of yourself but, that’s what a 12 step program is all about: becoming self-aware and taking responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, and actions.

It’s said that those who find fault with others and their programs, calling them “sick” and whatnot, are probably pretty sick, themselves. And getting called out for their sober-shaming (I just came up with that)…well, that generally sends the offender over the edge. And you know why? Because they know the implications of such an accusation: they’re not spiritually-fit; they’re sick; they’re being judgmental; they’re not showing unconditional love for their fellow alcoholic/addict and so on. These are things we in the program are trying to avoid and outgrow, from our days spent in active addiction, when we were the most selfish and self-centered we’ve ever been.

If you find yourself being ‘down with OPP’ it’s important that you call yourself out on it. I don’t think it’s overly-dramatic to say that your sobriety – and therefore your life – depends on it.

Taking other people’s inventory leads to developing resentments. And these resentments can spread like wildfire. Soon enough, it’s not just some ‘rando’ at your meeting that you can’t stand for their hypocrisy; it’s your friends and even your sponsor, and eventually, the program, itself. As you can see, this is very dangerous territory.

The next time you find yourself becoming overly-concerned what someone else is doing, that’s a red flag that you need to take a good look at yourself. There’s something called projection, or transference, and what that means is that you see something in someone else that, in fact, applies to YOU, and you don’t like it. Not one bit.

Instead of condemning that other person, whether in your head or aloud to others, take some time to be with yourself. Journal about it. Talk about it with your sober supports and your sponsor. Take action to get back on track: meditate, pray, get involved with service. Re-commit to your program. Maybe begin the steps over again, if you’ve already completed them.

Remember, being judgmental from time-to-time is a human trait; it’s natural and normal. But, for those of us in recovery, allowing ourselves to get carried away with passing judgment on others that could spell Trouble (that’s right, with a capital ‘T’)!

Also remember: everyone is on their personal journey toward recovery from a very serious and life-threatening disease and each path may look different from your own. The next time you perceive someone to be ‘off’ or struggling, reach out your hand instead of condemning them for being a bad person.

Are you struggling with recovery? Have you relapsed and looking for a way back to sobriety? Talking to your sober supports, including your sponsor is a good place to start. You can also talk to an Addiction Specialist 24/7 by calling toll-free 1-800-951-6135. We are here to listen and help. You are not alone.

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