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Jamie Lee Curtis Writes About Her Former Opiate Addiction

Jamie Lee Curtis Writes About Her Former Opiate Addiction

Jamie Lee Curtis was known in her early career as a “scream queen.”  She was a horror movie sensation. She starred in famous horror movies like Halloween, Halloween II, Prom Night, Terror Train and Roadgames. Then later on in her career, she did other genre films like Blue Steel and Freaky Friday. While most people know Jamie Lee Curtis from her extensive body of work, very little know about Curtis’s long addiction to opiates.

After the death of Prince, Jamie Lee Curtis felt compelled to publish an article in the Huffington Post about her struggles with addiction. Although tests have not confirmed the cause of Prince’s death, many reports are saying the musician struggled with an opiate addiction which ended his life in an overdose.

Jamie Lee Curtis, now 57, says she believes she is “one of the lucky ones.” She was able to come out of her opiate addiction alive. In her article, she illustrates the powerful lure of opioids. Curtis began taking opiates after a routine surgical procedure at 35 years old.   In a 2009 article following the death of Michael Jackson, she wrote about how she soon became addicted after being prescribed the pills by her doctor.

“Most people who become addicted, like me, do so after a prescription for a painkiller following a medical procedure. Once the phenomenon of craving sets in, it is often too late,” she wrote.

Like many addicts, the moment Curtis became hooked on the drugs; she wanted it more and more.

“I too, waited anxiously for a prescription to be filled for the opiate I was secretly addicted to. I too took too many at once. I too sought to kill the emotional and physical pain with pain killers. Kill it. Make it stop.” She revealed in 2008 that it had gotten so bad that she was stealing pills from her sister.

Curtis is now 17 years in recovery. She says she can relate to Prince’s struggle with opiates because her addiction was just as toxic. She continued explaining how she not only mourns the passing of a phenomenal artist; she mourns all potential artists past and presents who get caught in this deadly addiction.

“Let’s work harder, look closer and do everything we can not to enable and in doing so, disable, our loved ones who are ill. This is what it sounds like when we all cry,” she says.

As a result of her personal addiction battle, Curtis now makes it her priority to spread awareness of this disease. She serves as a voluntary counselor and public speaker for anti-drug campaigns. In 2014, Curtis witnessed her friend overdose from a combination of alcohol and prescription medication and alcohol. Fortunately, her friend made a full recovery and was released from the hospital hours later.

Curtis says her sobriety is the greatest accomplishment of her life because it broke the cycle of addiction that was prevalent in her family. She now maintains her sobriety by being open about her past.

“Being courageous enough to acknowledge it privately with my family and friends. Working really hard at solidifying it, getting support around it and being healthy. And then talking about it publicly. That is the single greatest accomplishment of my life, “ she says.


Curtis has an amazing story of recovery; however it certainly was not easy for her to get to that point. It took work and acknowledging she had a problem. Therefore, if you are struggling with addiction, the time is now to admit that you need help with this disease. Call us today. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-777-9588.

 

6 Signs of Being Too Dependent

6 Signs of Being Too Dependent

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Author: Justin Mckibben

It isn’t always easy to see the signs of being too dependent, especially in ourselves, but a lot of us have developed some emotional habits that put us in a position to depend on others in some form or another. They say we all need somebody to lean on… but how much is too much, and how many of us depend on others to the point where we would collapse without them?

These signs are not always easy to read and identify with, because of course we all want to believe we can be independent and strong as an individual, so seeing a reflection in the mirror that tells us we exhibit dependent characteristics is going to bruise the ego a bit.

Every person struggling with independence will one day reach a point when they realize they cannot climb any higher in life without taking a few steps alone, self-discovery. Those of us who battle with dependency issues can apply our dependent nature to all types of things, including:

So here are just 6 signs of being too dependent. Maybe some of these apply to you, and maybe that means it is time to sever some ties, take off the training wheels and find a way without depending on others for happiness, security and purpose.

  1. Can’t make everyday decisions on their own

Now before we get too far into this, appreciate the fact that of course if you’re going to make a major life decision that could alter the course of your future then I’m not giving you grief for talking it over and getting a variety of opinions from family and friends. By all means, crowd source the heavy stuff.

But with being too dependent we are talking about being incapable of making everyday decisions without someone else’s guidance, or every time the decision is made it is motivated by fear instead of logic.

  1. Fear of confrontation  

The fear of confrontation follows along with a lot of the other fears of someone who struggles with being codependent, such as the fear of failure or the fear of making the wrong decisions on their own.

A person who is too dependent frequently does not feel worthy of having an opinion, especially one that differs from the opinion of someone else they feel they need, and to express that opinion seems even more impossible. If you notice yourself holding back on speaking your mind and standing for what you believe in because it might not work with someone else, it is a very real sign of being too dependent.

  1. Fear of failure

People who are too dependent tend to shy away from being exposed and vulnerable because it may cause others to realize how “worthless” they really are.

The fear of being a failure and having your weaknesses put on public display can cause immense anxiety for someone who is too dependent. For people used to depending on others it is easier to avoid failure by not taking initiative or following through with actions. People who are too dependent typically find themselves abandoning their goals before they even get started on the journey.

  1. Cannot be alone

Always expecting the worst is part of being too dependent, and this sense of impending dread often leads them to not feeling competent enough to live their own lives without others.

Being alone means being vulnerable and unprotected, which are both things overly dependent people will try to alleviate with the presence of other people… even if those other people are not good for them.

To someone who is overly dependent it is impossible to comprehend having to cope with whatever life throws at them on their own- so of course people who are too dependent rely on the stability and strength of others to see them through… even if those other people aren’t as stable or as strong as the dependent would believe.

  1. Always seeking approval

This may especially hard for a dependent person to acknowledge, because no one wants to admit they are a people pleaser. One was that people who are too dependent trick themselves into justifying their overly dependent and unhealthy behavior is by adopting the other person’s expectations as their own.

If the person struggling with being dependent “fails”, they assume it is a failure not only to the expectations of the other person but also their own, and thus each failure reinforces the detrimental judgment of self.

Dependent people crave validation and approval. Some would say a dependent person desires approval as desperately as an alcoholic craves a drink, so an alcoholic with a dependent personality in relationships has a lot standing against them.

  1. Lack of Boundaries

In most cases the only boundary the person has is to be included in the relationship they latch onto, and subsequently all other personal boundaries are unsolidified and traversable if it helps them keep their grip on that desired relationship.

This unhealthy and self-depreciating willingness to ignore or alter personal boundaries in order to maintain a relationship creates a vulnerability that some people look to exploit.

Some personality types are happy to find out how much a person is willing to give, then use them for all they have for as long as they can. The needs are never met, and the dependent person will never feel enough- this cycle is terrible and tragic, and so many people who have to rebuild emotionally due to drugs or alcohol tend to become overly dependent in some aspect of their life, putting them in greater danger than they realize.

Overall, becoming independent in any kind of relationship can end up supporting your sobriety exponentially. In some cases, it can lead to relapse. In recovery we learn to be less dependent on people and instead rely on our principles and our actions, along with a spiritual fitness. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135

Jealousy and the Alcoholic

Jealousy and the Alcoholic

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Author: Justin Mckibben

Jealousy is an ugly thing, but we all have a habit of harvesting it in some shape or another. Be it envy of property or prestige, or a resentment of romantic origins, we all have a way of getting a little bent out of shape over the whole grass-is-greener scenario. Not to be cynical, we are all perfect in our imperfections, but to acknowledge jealousy as part of our human condition is necessary in order to improve ourselves.

Jealousy can turn friends into foes, co-workers and peers into rivals, and lovers into bitter exes simply by enticing our insecurities. Jealousy can corrupt our intentions, and turn our trust into anxiety.

Now, researchers are saying jealousy also has the power to turn drinkers into alcoholics. This is rooted in the idea that people who depend on their relationships to make them feel complete or content are more likely to drown their sorrows if they suspect the one they are with to be cheating.

Probing Problem Drinkers

Researchers at the University of Houston recently published a study in Addictive Behaviors where they examined the drinking patterns and romantic relationships of 277 people, and they hones in on links between 3 main factors they hypothesized could help identify people at risk of alcoholism:

  1. Romantic Jealousy
  2. Relationship-dependent Self-esteem
  3. Alcohol Problems

What they found were those experiencing jealousy were more likely to be a problem drinker… that is IF the jealousy stemmed from being in an unhappy relationship and having one’s self-worth primarily dependent on the other person.

87% of the participants in the study were women, and everyone involved was asked to fill out questionnaires pertaining to:

  • Their level of satisfaction in a relationship
  • Their level of self-esteem
  • Their alcohol use
  • Or course… jealousy

Through the process and the data collected, researchers determined many people would turn to alcohol to cope when experiencing jealousy in their romantic relationships.

Again, the emphasis on this pattern was especially pronounced among those who were in “low-quality” relationships where the individuals surveyed felt:

  • Less satisfied
  • Less committed
  • Disconnected from their partners

So it wasn’t to say that EVERY person who experienced jealously in their relationship was going to develop a drinking problem, but those who show specific traits in their love life are more likely to go on binders when things go wrong.

Impact and Awareness

Alcohol abuse is a serious issue. It is often underestimated in America, but it’s impact is profound and understanding the elements of progressive alcohol abuse is important to prevention and raising awareness.

As the 3rd leading cause of preventable death in the United States, alcohol abuse accounts for 1 in 10 deaths for working-age adults. That’s around 88,000 deaths per year in this nation and 2.5 million deaths at a global scale per year. While becoming an alcoholic cannot be put squarely on the shoulders on relationship issues, it seems plenty alcoholic drinkers end up working their way toward excessive drinking through problems with their romantic relationships.

The lead author of the study Dr. Angelo DiBello stated,

“Romantic jealousy is a shared human experience, but very little work has looked at how it is related to alcohol use, misuse and associated problems. This research helps to highlight the associations between these factors and show how our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are related in potentially harmful ways.”

Scientists hope that these findings could offer more insight into how relationships can impact self-esteem, and how all these elements could eventually help identify alcoholism more quickly and even get a head start on prevention.

With an alcoholic feeling those feels is actually a pretty common excuse we use to drink. People in recovery have probably heard more than once about someone’s relationship creating a set of circumstances that led them to isolation and discontentment, so relationships are often given this bad reputation as a leading cause of relapse for the alcoholic.

In reality, if you are spiritually fit and work on yourself, you don’t run this kind of risk. THAT is the big point made so far in this research. An alcoholic is not made by one defect or another. If every jealous person was an alcoholic then meetings would be a lot bigger.

The people in the study who had a fulfilled life and were self-sufficient in their happiness and quality of life didn’t have a risk of severe drinking problems like those who were co-dependent and jealous. If we are to survive the little things like jealousy and resentment, our worth as an individual has to come from the inside. YOU are not your relationship, and when you forget it then your relationship has the power to undermine your recovery.

“There is no greater glory than love, nor any greater punishment than jealousy.”

-Lope de Vega

An alcoholic drinks for the effect, and the blame for the desired effect can be put on any number of our flaws as people, but in reality there is always a choice. As an alcoholic you still have a choice; you can continue down the path that too often leads to death, or you can recover. If you or someone you love is struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135

8 Types of Toxic People to Ditch in the New Year

8 Types of Toxic People to Ditch in the New Year

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By Cheryl Steinberg

The New Year is all about making resolutions that will improve your life in the coming year, with the intention of establishing healthy habits for years to come. That’s what life is about: growth, change, bettering yourself, and creating your own source(s) of happiness.

That said, this is the perfect time to identify and establish which of your relationships are healthy and which ones are not healthy. It’s time to stop putting up with the stress and strife that comes from dealing with certain individuals. Here are 8 types of toxic people to ditch in the New Year.

#1. People who make your life more stressful

A good rule of thumb is this: being stressed by situations is normal; being stressed by people is unhealthy. If you have people in your life who manage to stress you out on a regular basis, that’s your mind telling you – and motivating you — to cut them out of your life.

#2. People who use you

First of all, everyone uses everyone and that can be OK. We use one another for company, support, and so on. That’s normal in relationships. This type of ‘using’ either maintains or improves our wellbeing.

But then you have the parasitic friend, you know the one – who uses you, sucking you dry and feeding off your energy until you have none left. This kind of toxic person needs to be left behind in 2014.

#3. People who don’t respect you

Another good rule of thumb: Have enough respect for yourself to never allow others to disrespect you. If there are people in your life who have don’t give you the respect you give them, remember that the best way to respect yourself is to get rid of them.

#4. People who always seem to hurt you

Sometimes we hold onto friendships for too long. Perhaps this is someone you’ve been friends with since you were in elementary school. But, if it’s dawned on you that this friend or friends end up hurting you more often than helping you, it’s time to let go.

Pain is only good if you learn a lesson from it. In this case, the lesson is to stop allowing others to hurt and use you.

#5. People who lie to you

Everyone lies and most lies are harmless, but that all changes when the people who are lying to you are the same people you trust. Only allow trustworthy people to be close to you and you’ll be better off for it.

#6. People who talk sh!t behind your back

Backstabbers. These people are the absolute worst. They are cowards that don’t have the courage to speak their minds and their truth. These toxic people actually enjoy pretending to be your friend while talking mad sh!t behind your back.

These people are your “pseudo friends” — a lot of fun to hang out with, and more than willing to accept help, but when you need their help they’re nowhere to be found.

This type of toxic person is especially harmful because they give you the a false sense of security; that you can trust them.

#7. People who drag you back into your old lifestyle/hold you back in life

You’ve heard it plenty of times: change people, places, and things. There’s a reason for that. Even if you’ve changed those things when you decided to get clean and sober, it’s good from time to time to reevaluate the people you’ve let into your inner circle.

Are they holding you back in life? Are they a bad influence? Do they have you questioning or sacrificing your own set of values?

As time passes, we change as individuals. Our hopes and goals change, which can lead to your current relationships growing stale. If your goals aren’t aligned, your lives aren’t either.

#8. People who just take up space

It’s important to be very careful and choosy with the kinds of people you let in. You can only maintain a handful of strong relationships at any given time — you just don’t have the time, energy or mental focus to handle more.

If someone isn’t adding to your life, then they’re taking away from it.

Ditch these space-hogs in the New Year and start fresh.

Setting healthy boundaries and maintaining them can be a difficult practice to learn. People with a history of substance abuse and/or addiction also tend to also struggle with codependency. If you have one or a combination of all three of these, or you know someone who does, help is available. Please call toll-free 1-800-951-6135 to speak with an Addiction Specialist today.

Drug Rehab for Couples

Drug Rehab for Couples

Drug Rehab for Couples: Substance abuse, Physical Dependence, and Addiction

Substance abuse and drug addiction, including alcohol addiction (alcoholism), are both medical conditions that are chronic, meaning life-long, but that can be successfully treated and long term recovery is then possible. Drug rehab for couples is specifically designed to treat you and your significant other for these medical issues.

Substance abuse means that you are using a substance more than it is prescribed or in ways other than how it’s supposed to be taken. For example, if you are prescribed painkillers and you crush them and snort them instead of taking them orally. Although alcohol is a legal substance, it too can be abused.

When you have become physically dependent on alcohol or other drugs, it means you have built up a tolerance, needing more of the substance to achieve the same effect you used to experience in the beginning. Physical dependence also involves the experience of certain symptoms, known as withdrawal symptoms, when you suddenly stop or “cut back.”

Drug and alcohol addiction involves both substance abuse and physical dependence but is even more intense and all-consuming. Couples who are addicted to alcohol or other drugs will often fight over drug-related issues, turn to crime to support their habit, and begin suffering the negative consequences related to drug use. These include legal issues, such as being charged with possession or DUI; social impact, such as losing friends and family members; financial woes, such as job loss and even loss of their home.

Drug Rehab for Couples: Why Go to Rehab

If you and your spouse experience any of the above conditions, you should consider going to a drug rehab for couples. It can be difficult enough trying to quit on your own. When your significant other is also using, then you are both more likely to keep using, even if you both want to quit.

For one, withdrawal symptoms, which are both psychological and physical, can be so uncomfortable and even painful that one or both of you might ‘cave in’ and decide to get more of your drug of choice to make the pain and discomfort stop.

Another reason you should consider rehab for couples is that families that are affected by addiction tend to also be affected by codependency. What that means is that there is an unhealthy dynamic of dependence on one another. When two people are codependent there is a greater likelihood of failure to quit.

Drug Rehab for Couples: Pros

Couples who are using drugs need family therapy as well as individual therapy. At drug therapy for couples, you will get both of these services. Though you and your spouse will likely need to continue attending therapy for a while after returning home, the healing can begin in a safe place – rehab – for both parties. Working with a therapist who specializes in substance abuse treatment can really help both of you get the help, support and encouragement you need to work through the difficulties that come with new sobriety.

Drug Rehab for Couples: The Bottom Line

The main purpose of rehab is to help you get medical and psychological treatment for drug addiction. It is not the goal of rehab to save your relationship/marriage; it’s to save you. Nothing can save a relationship except for the two people in it who are willing to do what it takes to salvage it. That means that rehab cannot make you or your spouse go get therapeutic care, stay sober, attend therapy, or go to codependency groups, etc. The action and work has to be done by the two people in the relationship, drug rehab for couples can get you headed in the right direction by helping you heal and be clear-headed. The effort and willingness must be there in order to save your relationship or marriage.

Is your spouse or significant other struggling with substance abuse or addiction? Are you both struggling? Going to drug rehab for couples can be one way to start over. Call an Addiction Specialist today at toll-free 1-800-951-6135.

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